Practicing the PAUSE
Practicing the PAUSE!!!
The famous French philosopher Blaise Pascal wrote that
- “All the unhappiness of men arises from the single fact that they cannot
stay quietly in their own room,” Well, that isn’t me. With today’s frenetically
fast paced world I find it as an opportunity to put a halt to everything and
surprise myself with a PAUSE, and this quote by Pascal amazes me that this
PAUSE was equally delighting in the 17th century when Pascal first made that
observation.
PAUSE is when there comes a moment everything
within me resists motion. I love my life and the precious people in it.
Yet, suddenly, the very intimacy I cherish feels like a burden I can no longer
carry. I want to see myself as a person who is competent and sturdy and kind. And
then I am unable to be any of these things.
I
just can’t plan one more balanced dinner or sit at the table and have one more
meaningful conversation with my mom. I can’t anticipate or meet one more need
or set one more thing to rights. All I want is to sleep alone on my messy bed with
not a streak light peaking into my room and wake up in silence and let things
go their own way. I want to take a vacation from worrying and fretting and
fixing, have breakfast at ten and skip lunch and eat mushroom soup from the
serving bowl for dinner, with my painting brush propped in front of me. I want
to take a walk at my own pace right when clock strikes 12 am.
A
meaning PAUUUUUUSEEE!! Yes it is!!
And
then!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I long for a conversation in which I only have to listen
to the small quiet voice inside me, a voice that speaks without words. Can you ever
imagine what a relief it would be to spend a whole day without talking? I
wonder how relaxing it would be to not having to clean or wash or fold anything,
without applying makeup, without good cheer, without a to-do list, without
getting into your office cab, without reaching for your wallet or your phone beeps.
I
wonder if anyone else hits this wall, the wall of too much. The hard,
unforgiving place of feeling crowded and tired and overwhelmed; of knowing that
I simply cannot accomplish all that needs to be done, or make good on all the
promises I had made to others. Or live up to the expectations I had set for myself.
From where the dark quiet cave of aloneness beckons and I start imaging my
PAUSE and begin to crave for it.
From
there I only try to think for a place where I might go, just for a little
while, to privately fall apart and put myself back together again, without
causing anyone I love too much fuss or inconvenience. A sinking feeling that
takes me to a secret visit to a cabin, where I undo some plans, cancel some,
make a mug of tea to leave behind, unpack and rack my clothes again, watch an
old daddy-daughter movie, throw some things into my bag and elude.
At the market I’ve never been to before,
where the items in my plastic basket would tell the whole story: a jar of
Mayonnaise, a dozen Bananas, a tray of eggs, some cans of cranberry juice, dark
chocolates and few Cadbury Silks. The right choice of food of a person who is
not intending to feed anyone else.
And
then!!! This happens; with all that you have you arrive at dusk in a downpour
and lug your things up the twisty path, a path unknown. Your door is too sticky
but unlocked, like that of a magic place in a fairy tale. Everything you
brought with you is soaked but then it doesn’t matter at all. This sudden rain
has washed away some outer layer of you, a layer you were ready to shed anyway.
Arriving drenched, with your hair almost plastered to your head and your feet
squishing in your sandals, is all a feeling like that of a BEGINNING where you
are inhabiting your body in a different way — curious and raw, defenseless and
hopeful.
Inside,
the damp, musky scent of wet mud and wood, the old memories, the scorching summers
past, and gives rise to some sharp cherished memories: at a paid homestay in a
hilltop, with the familiar textures of leisurely afternoons spent reading and
dozing under old luxurious quilts while the mountain breeze lapped the
coniferous tree tops. PAUSE it is, at your home territory. The rain pounds the roof;
you open windows, put clothes on the shelf, line up your wet shirt and shoes.
As darkness falls you feel lighter. Peaceful. Better.
In
the morning, without any sort of plan, you walk up the road, going nowhere.
Focus on today, you remind yourself. All is well, you say, to no one. And it is.
With every step you are clearing a space, coming closer to a self you almost
forgot you knew. The good news is, THAT SELF HASN’T ABANDONED YOU.
She has been
here all along, waiting patiently for you to turn away from all your busy
comings and goings, to recognize her, greet her, and welcome her home. The sun
is shining and you are sweating and your legs are moving. You listen to the
sounds of a summer day. Birds chirping cluttered in the trees. Further on, from
a shed on a mountain top: you hear the sounds of an orchestra tuning up for
rehearsal. A solo flute traveling up and down the scales. The breeze rustling
leaves in the dense canopy of maples overhead. A lawnmower churning back and
forth across an expanse of green. The drone of bees in a jumbled roadside
garden, colorful as a piñata. Everything has its wonders. You are here to pay
attention.
Alone,
your life begins to feel like a choice again. You find yourself drawn into
harmony with the sweet, easy flow of the day, unfolding according to its own
rhythm. Slowly, something that was stuck deep inside begins to move. You ride
the gentle currents of sadness, regret, joy, longing and acceptance. Surprised
by tears, you lift your face to the sky and allow the sun to dry them. There is
the necessary, satisfying work of serving others in all the places where you
are loved and needed. But there is also this: the soul’s work, which you ignore
at your peril. And so, for today, anyway, you commit yourself to it fully: The
journey inward to find your own truth. The stillness of your mind behind the
noise of your doing. The willingness to see the beauty inside yourself, and to
honor that. You are a little rusty and awkward in your quest. The privilege of PAUSE
is also a skill that requires practice.
At the far
end of a field, a granite bench awaits under the shade of a tree. The words
“Sit a while” are in engraved across the top. You do. And you take in the view,
the gentle, slumbering hills; the drifting veil of clouds. This, too, is a kind
of compassion — resting, listening, waiting in the silence of your heart to
feel the next step. There is a new energy moving in you. A reverence, You can
do this. You can dive down, naked, into the sacred quiet. You can learn to be
at ease here. To be grateful for these hidden treasures. In this secret,
spacious place, you remember something beyond the moment, a strength on which
to build.
In
a little while, you will walk the long road back. C
The
grace of God means something like:
You
might never have been, but you are. Here is your life. Here is the world.
Beautiful
and terrible things will happen. Don’t be afraid. I am with you.
— Frederick Buechner
Beautiful composition Naomi :)
ReplyDeleteIt is a reminder for all those peace seeking chaotic souls, that peace and happiness is an inside job. I take pride in having a friend like you. Soulmate!
thank you @Wanderess, I am sorry I could not message you back as I didn't see your comment. Honestly I missed out on comments coz I never thought this blog would be ever commented.
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Well said .... You are actually strong and you are actually doing good thing.
ReplyDeleteAlways new begining is the pause for earlier life.
Definetly indulge yourself into new curve of the life this will make you feel comfortable and cherishable.
We are all here for some unique purpose, some noble objective that will allow us to manifest our highest human poiential while we, at the same time , add value to the lives around us
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